Russian Brides. Myth or Reality?
When I first began on my journey seeking a Russian Bride, I was just in awe at how gorgeous they were AND that they were still available... as I'm sure most Western men feel when they visit these Russian woman sites too. Yes, it was eye candy heaven and I loved every minute of it. They all shared the same typical profile too... "Looking for man my dreams! I cook, clean and shall be the good wife! I want family with the children... where is you, man my dreams?"
Seemed simple enough, as I fit the profile for most of the Russian women on there. And as I searched towards finding the perfect Anna Kournikova clone, thinking of how I would rescue her from the fallout of Communism, poverty and near starvation... she, in return, would think of me as her hero, love me forever and worship the ground I walk upon. All because I sent her an email. Yes, pure poetry to her ears that somebody from the Western world wanted her more than a bottle of Stolichnaya Vodka!
And after 2 years of courtship through emails, I eventually found my perfect match... a petite, sweet, blonde Russian girl named Nadejda. Only 25 years old... old enough to know what love is and still young enough to fall for it! Yes, I am a lucky man and have been very fortunate. But in my quest towards marrying a Russian woman, I have learned the truth that separates MYTH from REALITY. Many Russian bride sites will likely argue with me on many points -- but this is because they have to. After all, they need Western men to spend their American dollars, right? But I want to set the record straight. My article is not to tear down the Russian Bride sites, but rather to amuse and entertain you while being truthful... so I will speak the truth based on my experiences.
So what is MYTH and what is REALITY? Well, let's see, shall we?
1) Myth: All Russian women are just as beautiful as Anna Kournikova. Sorry, but unless you're Anna Kournikova, the closest you're ever going to get with her looks is a photo. MOST (and yes, I do mean MOST) Russian girls are a 7 at best, being on a scale from 1-10. I grew up in Chicago, Los Angeles and Las Vegas, so maybe my opinion is a bit biased... but living here in Russia, I have yet to see the beautiful women as represented within the agency sites. Also, I once heard that Russian women supposedly age more gracefully than American women... yet another myth. Most Russian women over 30 look terrible and are very much overweight. I have met some American men here in Russia and they all laughed because they agreed... Russian women over 30 look like they're 45.
2) Reality: Russian women are more family oriented. Completely true! Russian cultures are very family oriented, especially the women. My wife talks to her sister and mother daily, and holidays you can expect large family gatherings.
3) Myth: Russian women would do anything to come to America. Completely false. Most Russian women are actually very intimidated of the very thought of leaving their home country. Again, they are very family oriented and while they might be intrigued to live in America (or elsewhere), the vast majority of Russian women don't care to live that far away from their family... UNLESS you are a millionaire and want to share your money with their family! I mean, hey, we're all human, right? Heck, I'd gladly sell my brother for a penny -- any takers?
4) Reality: Russian women love Western men. This is actually true. Many Russian women are intrigued by foreign men (especially western men) and find it sexy that you're not from their country. Not to mention, many Russian men drink heavily and are alcoholics, which also plays into why so many Russian women seek relationships abroad. I believe hygene also plays into their decision too -- but I can't be too sure. Perhaps I should ask them why they keep pinching their nose?
5) Myth: Money doesn't really matter to Russian women. This is only true if you're wealthy -- because only then does it NOT matter. Sorry fellas, but your $30K salary will only be fine to a Russian lady if you reside within a Russia village or Ukraine. Outside of that, these ladies have no desire to trade in their $200 monthly flat just to live with you in your really cool trailer! If you plan on marrying a Russian woman, you had better bring something to the table besides your charming personality.
6) Reality: Russian women are faithful and loyal. This is very true from what I have experienced. Many Russian women are faithful and loyal to the ones they love. They are extremely devoted.
7) Myth: Russian women are too poor and don't have the internet. I want to clarify this right now... this is NOT true for the majority of Russian women. Most people have the internet, and if not from home, I can assure you they have it from work and often check their emails at work. This is a common ploy agencies use to have you pay more money to use their mail forwarding services.
Reality: Russian people are broke and their salaries are very low. The average Russian woman makes about $200 per month. However, their cost of living is very low here, so think of it as making around $600 per month in the US. Living in Russia has taught me that this country is LAZY and BROKE... notice I said broke, not poor. There is a huge difference. Africa is a poor nation, but not Russia. Many Russians are lazy because -- well, in all honesty, they have no desire to work for pennies a day. Who can blame them?
9) Myth: Russian women are scammers and only want your money. Not true at all. Most Russian women who scam for money on the web are not even women at all... they are men posing as women. If a Russian woman ever asks you for money, 9 times out of 10 it's a man posing as a woman.
10) Reality: Russian women are very strong individuals. These women have been through a lot in this country, so do not make the mistake of thinking a Russian woman needs a man to SAVE her because they don't make a lot of money. They WANT a man, but definitely don't NEED one. The divorce rate is high in this country because Russian women don't have a problem with leaving their husbands due to mistreatment. If you treat them right, they will stay with you forever... but disrespect them, and they will drop you like a bad habit and never look back.
These are just a few things I discovered along the way. Russian women can and do make wonderful wives, but in order for this to happen, a man must pursue this with great patience. It won't happen in 3 months... but if you persist at it and stay in touch with one girl for long enough, then I assure you, it can happen as it did with me! Good luck!!
Attractive Ladies From Russia On Dating Sites, Are They Real?
This is true that there're a lot of single fascinating ladies in Russia, but is it true that so many of them are looking for foreign men? Why do they neglect men from former USSR? Of course they do not. Of course 80% of striking women from former USSR prefer staying in their own country where their parents, their friends live. Who are then all this army of top model brides who have grasped all international marriage sites? The majority of men are not so naïve and realize that most of them are just scammers hunting for your money.
But even those who understand the risk to be scammed can not resist a beautiful lady with angel smile and perfect body who will write you in her third letter that you're the man she was looking for during all her life.
But how to distinguish those few real and serious brides from this army of scammers hiding behind gorgeous pictures of sexy girls?
Firstly be attentive to sites where added profiles are not managed and where you can submit any information you like.
Search for an International Marriage Agency like www.top-fiancee.com that has been working since at least 2000 as they will be properly found. Make sure that full address and phone number of the agency are shown on the web site website. Choose dating agency that suggests you several ways of secure payment and is ready to answer all your questions via phone or e-mail. Study Russian brides' profiles attentively. Make sure ladies personally take out a subscription in the office. It means that information stated in profile is true and the photos are late and trustful.
The fact that all brides at the catalogue are from the same city is a good sign. It means that the agency doesn't accept brides' profiles sent by internet.
Find a reliable marriage agency that will help you in your correspondence and will guarantee you meeting a affectionate serious Ukrainian bride.
A good marriage agency like www.ukreine.com/index_en.html will assist you to organize a meeting with a girl of your dream. During it you will be able to know more about her aims of acquaintance, tell her more about troubles related to her moving abroad, get acquainted with girl's family, show courtesies (flowers, gifts etc.) if you want to, make sure that the girl does not date you for the sake of cash.
Now you have all needed information for your first step to on-line dating! Enjoy it!
Marrying a Russian Bride
There are many women today that want to leave their country to come to the United States. One way for these women to do this is to have someone from the United States buy them or marry them in order for them to leave their country and come to live in the states. This is a way for most of these women to leave behind a world of abuse or neglect and come to a free land.
A Russian bride is just one of the deals that can be bought. Many women in Russia long to come to America and have a happy and loving relationship with a man. This is something that they cannot do in their own part of the world. These women will decide to advertise themselves and have some man buy them for their bride. There are a lot of organizations that do this online and off. If you are interested in finding a wife this way, you will need to be careful and avoid the scams.
If the Russian bride decides that she does not want to be married to the man any longer, she will then be deported back to Russia and will lose her right to be in the States. It is sometimes a game between the man and the women just to be able to live in a wonderful country and have a loving family at the same time.
A Russian bride is someone that has grown up in Russia and now wants to become an American citizen. For this reason, they will allow their bodies to be bought by unknown men in which they will marry in return. These women will have to assume the role of wife to these men and remain that way in order to stay in the United States.
There are many online sites that offer this Russian bride service. When you visit these web sites, you will be able to see the women and find out some information about them. You will get to actually choose the women that you want to meet. After this, you can form a long distance relationship; buy writing letters, talking on the phone and possibly even meeting. The Russian bride may encourage the man to pay for tickets so that she can come for a visit.
After a short time period of getting to know one another, both the man and the women can decide if this is the right thing for them or not. Once decided, the women will then come to the United States to be married to the man. First however, the fee has to be paid to the agency in which she is sold from.
Both parties need to execute caution and be aware of the problems that can arise from this situation. Neither party wants to get scammed and in fact in some cases, both the Russian bride and the man are both looking for a meaningful and loving relationship to last a lifetime.